Dealing with your child’s separation anxiety can be really difficult. You might be happy that your child misses you the moment you leave the room, but it can be difficult to get anything done when they can’t settle down without you.
Separation anxiety can vary from baby to baby, toddler to toddler, and child to child, but there are some ways that you can survive separation anxiety, making the time apart easier for your child and for yourself.
Here are some ways to ease separation anxiety, and how to deal with it better overall.
You need to be consistent with your goodbye rituals and make them quick and sweet. The longer you linger during your goodbyes, the harder they will be, and the longer it will take for your child to calm down. Give however many kisses and the biggest hugs, but make sure you keep your goodbyes short. Trying to keep your goodbyes the same each time lets your child know what is happening, preparing them a little more for you leaving.
As best as possible, you need to remain consistent. Stick to the same drop-off time at playschool, or leave for work at the same time, with the same goodbye ritual. This helps to avoid unexpected factors that might end up upsetting your child even more. A routine does wonders to lessen the crying and heartache from your child and will help your baby build up the confidence that you will return each day.
Give Your Attention
When you are saying goodbye to your child, make sure to give them your full attention. Give them the affection they need, be loving, and then say goodbye. Don’t linger though. Give them some attention and say a quick goodbye.
Stick To Your Guns
When you promise your child that you will be back at the end of the school day, keep to that promise. Do not try to visit your child during the day. This will just upset them and you will have to go through the crying and heartbreak all over again. Keeping to your promise of returning at the end of the day will help them become a little more independent being away from you.
The best way to get your baby used to being away from you, is to practice them being away from you. Send them to stay with their grandparents for a few hours, have some playdates, and allow trusted family or friends to babysit for you. Practicing separation is good before starting playschool, so it won’t be such a shock to your little one, and they will be used to not being with you all the time.
Speak Their Language
If your child is old enough to understand what you say, then you should speak to them about what is happening, in a way they will understand. If you are coming to fetch them in the afternoon, simply tell them you will be back after nap time. Use simple words and speak in a way your child will understand.
Dealing with your child’s separation anxiety is not easy, but it is something you need to do to help your little one become more independent.