Positive parenting is a term that has been around for a while, but it is growing in popularity as parents move away from harsh discipline and are instead looking for a way to gently raise kind, empathetic and respectful children. Understanding positive parenting will help you decide whether or not it is the right parenting technique for you and your family.
What Is Positive Parenting?
Positive parenting is a method of parenting that is focused on developing a strong and deeply committed relationship between child and parent. This relationship is based on mutual respect and open communication. It is focussed on teaching your child not only how to behave, but why they should behave that way.
Through positive parenting, you will teach your child to practice self-control and self-discipline.
The three major components to positive parenting are:
- Parent’s help children internalize discipline, rather than obey orders out of fear of punishment. This teaches self-discipline.
- The rules and consequences are laid out clearly for children to understand, and are discussed often, with the consequences followed through.
- Parents actively listen to their children, and this allows for them to correct any misconceptions or misunderstandings the child might have.
How To Practice Positive Parenting
Understanding positive parenting is one thing, but understanding how to apply it to everyday life is another. It is important to keep the end-goal in mind, to help your child develop the tools they need to regulate their own behaviour by being thoughtful and empathetic.
One of the best places to start is to be a good role model for your child. Parents who show the right behaviour, raise children who follow that behaviour. To implement positive parenting throughout the day, you need to follow these four rules:
- Be consistent.
- Create an environment that is nurturing and caring.
- Learn about your child’s development to better understand what they can understand.
- Keep in mind that the end goal is to raise a child who is caring, kind and empathetic.
Creating A Nurturing Environment
In order to implement positive parenting, you need to create a nurturing environment for your children. This will help build a better relationship between you and open up lines of communication between you.
To create a more nurturing environment at home, remember to practice the following:
Acceptance – Your child needs to feel accepted and valued, and no matter what they do or say, know they will still be loved.
Love – Parental love is so important, and you can show your love by giving your time, caring, and giving undivided attention to your child, in all spaces of their lives. By showing love to your child, you will help them overcome many different conflicts.
Encouragement – Be supportive of your children when helping them correct mistakes or behaviours. Help them figure out what they are good at as well, to give them passions to pursue. This will steer them in the right direction and enforce the idea of responsibility.
Discipline – Do not use heavy-handed discipline, but instead set boundaries and reasonable consequences for your child. Remember you are not only teaching them how to behave, but why they should behave in a certain way.
Positive parenting can have such a great effect in both you and your child’s life. It is a gentle, yet effective approach to raising kind and caring children, who take responsibility for their own behaviour.